Your Name in Lights

What do you want to be known for?

There’s a song by Nicole Nordeman called Legacy. 

I want to leave a legacy,
How will they remember me?
Did I choose to love?
Did I point to you enough?
To make a mark on things
I want to leave an offering
A child of mercy and grace
Who blessed your name unapologetically
And leave that kind of legacy.

I want to be known for following Jesus. I’d like to be a kind, welcoming friend to everyone, and an inspirational, purposeful teacher.

But, the identity I’m focusing on lately is that I want to be known for being a good wife. That might seem like kind of a narrow focus, but the impact of a good wife has a ripple effect.

So what does it mean to be a good wife? In some of our pre-marriage counseling we came across the word ezer. It’s Hebrew for help or help-meet and used in Genesis 2 to describe Eve. A good wife helps.

I broke down the actions of the Proverbs 31 woman a few months ago in my journal:

  1. She advocates for those who can’t talk, who are headed towards death, the poor, the needy.
  2. She judges righteously.
  3. She isn’t quiet.
  4. She does good to her husband every day.
  5. She is willing to work with her hands.
  6. She brings food from afar, gets up early to prepare food, and plants a garden.
  7. She is physically strong.
  8. She stays up after dark to earn money.
  9. She helps the poor and needy.
  10. She dresses nice, but isn’t overly focused on that. She focuses more on strength and honor.
  11. She has hope.
  12. She speaks wisdom and kindness.
  13. She watches over the household.
  14. She isn’t idle.
  15. She fears the Lord.

To top off the list, there’s the powerful call to pray for our husbands. As Stormie Omartian writes, “Prayer is the ultimate love language” (27).

And, the prayers in Omartian’s The Power of a Praying Wife  start with praying for your husband’s wife (me).

Omartian writes in that chapter,

I was the one God worked on first. I was the one who began to change. My heart had to be softened, humbled, pummeled, molded, and reconstructed before He even started working on my husband. I had to learn to see things according to the way God saw them – not how I thought they should be (24).

So wives, lots of thoughts here – what are you going to focus on being known for as a wife?

Everyone: Overall in your life, what do you want to be known for?

I hope you will share in the comments what you want your legacy to be and why. I’d love to hear it.


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